I asked my husband last January 3 to plan a re-dedication ceremony for our 5 year anniversary. I'm giving him his weekend 'alone' then. And to him, that was a big difference. I am so upset and so hurt that he didn't care enough to even get me an effing card! A reader, anonymous, writes 16 June 2009 : This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear Sammi35, I do believe when men forget our birthdays there is an element of detachment; i. Perhaps you should talk to him, and say everything flat out. For the regular run-of-the-mill gym buddy's, bar friends, hang-out-watch-a-game, friends - I could care less.
He can't remember my middle name or where I was born. Today i moved house completely alone, which sucked - then cleaned the place and waited for bf - till about 7pm, i texted him and it turns out he decided to go fishing with a friend instead. He knew it was a special time and I dont see why I am forced to make her part of it. I suppose that what makes women so angry is not so much that we forget. My boyfriend forgot my birthday Tagged as: Question - 15 November 2006 69 Answers - Newest, 7 December 2013 A female , anonymous writes: My boyfriend completely forgot my birthday! It sounds like you are just doing your best to get what you want in this relationship without being too needy or pushy. Tell him it's very important to you, and you really hope he will remember next year, that you don't care about getting a gift but you do care that he remembers and wishes you a happy birthday. Send him a text reminder a month before that special day.
But, these guys are closer than my actually family. I can tell you he has either been out of the country or in another state for 2 of our anniversaries since he forgot the first one. Lots of times, dudes are just getting laid. He did not greet me so i left it at that. We manage homes and schedules, juggling appointments and activities every week. You are most likely upset that he forgot.
They have a great deal of creative talent, though this may require some coaxing. Where is your birthday cake dear brother? Did you feel like his acknowledged your feelings about this and was apologetic about anything he did to make you feel like junk? Small acts of carelessness can leave the other person feeling hurt and pained especially because the relationship means so much to them. A female reader, anonymous, writes 12 April 2011 : well. It's not that we don't care about important dates. I know it means i am just not that important to him.
It hurts when she forgets your birthday. Counting your wrinkles is like trying to count the stars in the sky. In other words, it's not just common sense to put effort into remembering someone's birthday. I didn't realize it, since you totally blew mine off! I let it go then since i figure I will have to let things like that slide alot. I have that problem now the phone thang.
Study him in his natural habitat. Instead, you should be forthright about it. Yes I get mad becuase he remembers other's bday but not mine. He blames the night shift job he has. Okay, technically, we just feel better about our age when we drink lots of wine.
You are the sweetest man I have ever met. Today, in fact, is my birthday. Dunno how I missed this, Alexis. This way, not only can you remember the dates but you can schedule something special for those dates as well. Now, to point out in the story, it's very bad to forget birthdays of your dear ones, no doubt about it. Flat out just tell him it's your birthday. How difficult is it really to take 15 minutes to exert some effort into celebrating someone else in your life? When he still gets emotional about his ex.
When he forgets important moments. But its all good… im checking out of this relationship anyway. It wasn't until 2 days later that we spoke and when I questioned why he had not done anything he made me to feel like the bad one. I write it down in my calendar and put a reminder or two on my phone on the day before and on the actual day. We chit chatted and yeah that was it.