That means he will want no contact with you whatsoever and that includes being friends with you on social media. When a man pulls away he is retreating into his mental man cave to recollect himself. Out of all the confounding behaviors exhibited by men, this particular one has us ladies all stymied. When you change your mindset about what it means when he pulls away, all of a sudden a lot of the things that are happening become less terrifying and more manageable. But having you push him when he wants to deal with it himself, or worse, having you freaking out about the one thing he felt solid with his relationship is absolutely the last thing he needs on his already overwhelming plate. It also gives him one chance to fix it.
Unfortunately for women, it can be very easy indeed to make a guy feel pressured, even if you do not think you are doing so. Alternating interest in relationships is normal to a certain extent. At that point I would be open to having a date with someone else. This forces him to honor your boundaries and respect your inner strength. Give the dude time to make an informed decision.
My advise is listen to what he said and in a relationship woman really have to learn to just ask straight out. I too have been pushed to the brink. He asks about you Does he always ask your friends about you? You´re attracted to him and he´s attracted to you. After a few days, when he responds, politely ask him if everything is okay again without pushing the issue. Worrying too much could damage the relationship even more.
He will need space once in a while but it will be less frequent once he manages to deal with his feelings. Question about my guy and guys in general I guess. I was the one who would often pull back and it would freak the guy out. He only needs to tell you what is going on! The sun is nothing more than active energy and warm, life-bearing light. Now ask yourself, do you really want to end up with an emotionally weak man? Men and women are wired completely differently.
This all is just my personal opinion and experience. I think its healthy to do it so the relationship can have some oxygen space to miss each other :- :- I agree about space being a good thing …. The most probable thing going on in your head is how to make him change his recent attitude. He may just feel more comfortable with you and subconsciously feel that he is showing you love and affection in different ways. Being a man myself, I recall various past relationships when I started to feel pressured and therefore noticed myself pulling away, and others where I did not. He now has a family, Christmas memories, summer vacations and just too much energy and finances invested.
Add into the the guilt he might be harboring since you were spending time together before you separated, and he might be looking for a fresh start. If it is an issue that has nothing to do with you, it gives him permission to come to you of his own free will when it feels right for him. Would you love to make him absolutely addicted to you? After a while when infatuation fades, he has to come back to reality and put effort and work into an actual relationship. Obviously, this is going to be different for every guy and every situation. This is subconsciously as they don't understand that vulnerability is desireable.
If he truly loves you, he will come around and your relationship will go on. You have to anchor his rubber band. You need to understand that no matter how much he loves you, his mother, sisters, brothers, or dad always come first. Be confident in and your worth as a woman. Is she really as amazing as I think? Stop moving forward, lean back so that like a rubber band, he will be able to bounce back to you. This is where the disappearing act comes in. In the midst of someone possibly losing interest in us, our tendency is to forget our own value, as if they were the prize, we were the winner, and our luck is about to run out.
I think it refreshes both sexes. Let this dance of romance progress according to your own music. Until I met the man who was genuinely into me, there was no pull away drama. Why would a man in a relationship just disappear without a trace like James Bond? Men who have money and employment issues will seldom take a relationship seriously until they can rest assured their bills are going to be paid. It will push him away even further. If you do get the chance to see him again then focus on that. He shuts down every conversation about the future and stops being the one to set dates.
But what you get is radio silence. This is typical male behavior in most cases. While you are acting so freaked out that the man you like has stopped paying attention to you, he could be stressed up with issues at work or something in his family. At the same time, a lot of women are their own worst enemies. What do you do when he pulls away? Are you willing to stretch, bow and bend backward just to have a relationship with him? Even if it can be utterly confusing for you when he does that, especially if you really like him, how you react to his absence will set the stage if he´s going to fall in love with you, take advantage of you, or pull away for good. The other thing which is absolutely pointless is trying to share your feelings with him hoping against hope that you might touch his heart so he can come back.