Then i started behaving The same way he was with me towards him. Relationships, like cars, need regular maintenance. He likes to call me a bi… Or his favorite cu. Twenty-two years into our marriage, I just don't feel any spark for him anymore. He use to play ball on the weekends and would go to a club and come home drunk early the next mornin when he was around certain friends of his. If he cares at all about you, he will do what he can to draw closer to you oncemore, as mine certainly has, thank you, God. But is it really that you don't love him or that you're overwhelmed and overburdened? Sometimes when you think you don't love your wife anymore, it really has more to do with the relationship naturally changing, as they all do.
I want to, but I am so disgusted by him physically and dissatisfied emotionally. To many people blame the relationship and find reasons to leave. Ask a husband that is hurting. Our conversations are much calmer now. You just have to want it but all of you leaving because of no good reason like cheating or abuse are wrong in every way. I am planning after my delivery will leave, is my decisions right? Totally beyond heartbroken and confused - July 31, 2018 Me and my husband is together for 20 years but married for 3 years now. But unless you are in an arranged marriage, it's likely that you were once very much in love with your husband.
I do not want to try and work it out, but now that it is too late — he wants to work on our marriage. She treats me like a buddy and if I try and talk about the old relationship she shoots me down instantly and vanishes for days. I adored my wife: attention, presents, love. What drew you to him, and him to you? I don't necessarily see a problem with that. U found a guy that can give u all the aspects of a fullfilling life, a partner, friend, lover and protecter. I have lost attraction for my husband and feel like I married the wrong man.
. Well people need to look around, it is extremely hard to be happy right now the world is a scary place. I am his third wife the one which he has been with the longest. I married very young, due to religious and cultural pressure, to man I was never physically or sexually attracted to. When this happens, you stop caring about us or we.
My frustration with the marriage and life that we had were replaced with thoughts of the old times when we had happy memories together and when I see traces of the man I fell in love with, it kept giving me hope. If I know we will most likely separate, I would prefer to do it when I am still relatively young. I married my wife 27 years ago. I have no idea if there would be any future with me and this guy, or even if that matters in what decision I ultimately make. This is more than just going through a bad patch. Have you tried marriage counseling? When you are no longer in love, it appears the butterflies have flown away. And maybe in the process of learning to like each other again, you will learn to love each other again.
He then keeps me on a silent treatment and acts like nothing happened after a day or two. But we have never agreed on anything else: politics, religion, food, music, books, television, nothing. Let's take a look at what the Bible says about love. Or maybe it could get better as she gets a little less dependent. With that being said, you might feel one thing — that something is missing.
Once again, it was a rough pregnancy and we had a toddler. I found out after we got back together. He calls you less frequently Is it the case that you are calling him very often but he doesn't call you that often anymore? We discussed separation and divorce when he was arrested, but ended up going to counseling and have stayed together. The sex declined temporarily while you were pregnant and had two small kids? After coming home back I fought him for the first time. Greg Smalley tells how to turn things around when you think you've fallen out of love with your spouse.
I want children badly but not with him. Human-based love is a feeling. This is jaded and broken and no man, or woman deserves that. Secondly, I feel like my sex drive is nonexistent. Did you feel rejected when it was less and did that play into your feelings changing? Though , this goes a bit beyond comfort. However, if one side or the other is feeling neglected in that area, yes, you should talk this over and get to the root of what that problem might be.
What kind of unsatisfied brat must I be to not be happy or to want more? He think that everyone owes him. If I quit school to get a minimum wage job, I will be stuck in it forever and never be happy. My kids are feeling my unhappiness and despite my efforts they are taking it out on him and he says it is my fault. Whenever we fight, he says the most hurtful things, even says horrible things about certain parts of my body which has left me with low self esteem. And for 9 months we dont have sex anymore.
It's a rut, and it's one that you don't care enough to break. I had a turbulent year last yr with my mother died. However, your situation seems a little more complex. I knew deep down that we had settled for each other. All the care, the passion, the love. But I wanted to share some things with you.