I readily embrace people for who they are. Thank you so much for voicing what has been going through my mind! God gives us everything we desire and then some, as He has freely given us all things to enjoy, and everything that pertains to life and godliness. And we can do all these things with joy while enjoying our time with Jesus and our fellowship with Him and other believers who motivate and encourage us to become the best we can be in Christ, while still believing God for a mate, and rejoicing with those who rejoice, such as other brothers and sisters in Christ whom God has blessed with a mate, or as I like to call it, a permanent boo. You are my reward, and in You I live, move, and have my being, and in your presence there is joy, unspeakable joy and full of glory. I was rejected for everything I was.
I am 44 and have been in quite a few serious relationships that have all had strikingly similar features, which all have me in common! Let me know in the comments below. After all I have survived and as much as I have had to depend on God, this is what I was fighting for? Well done on being brave enough to face the turmoil inside, even though you may not feel strong right now. Instead of focusing so much on what we can get out of a relationship, we can focus on what we could bring to a relationship, in order to be a blessing to that other person. Lots of good things vie for that spot; we can make virtually anything into our first thing. Today you caught my eye and of course I had to read and now you have truly won me over again. I thought I was the only one That God has forgotten about! Whew, there, what a relief, I just spit it out and said it to a whole slew of your readers instead of just my close circle of friends! Every time I read your blog I see my life in words. I often think about how long this single and childless train will last.
At least we are not in a terrible and unhappy relationship or marriage, right? You are doing a very blessed thing by taking your pain and turning it into a blessing for others! But I am sad also, but I know God has a plan for me. I feel like you and I are kindred twins! Thank you so much for your blatant honest Mandy. I almost always find something lovable in everyone I meet. I look up to you and I barely know you. I have to say, what also does not help in our society even in the Church! But my life is more than just being a wife and a mother.
Feeling unworthy of human love between a godly man and a godly woman is an horrible feeling. Meanwhile there is no reason to why I am single I just am. I volunteered as a Big Sister, at a petting zoo, as a fire fighter, emergency medical responder, with search and rescue and as a jail guard. He sent Jesus so that you might have joy, and that your joy might be full John 15:11. If you ask this question in the form of a complaint, like why me? But thanks to our inner strength and seriously to finding your blog as well, i am finally learning that i should take care of myself and that i come first. My friends are married with kids so I barely have anyone to go out with. Thank u Mandy for sharing your truth! Every day I think I am doomed to wander this earth by myself.
I love your books and have read them all. On the tail of another disappointment by a guy who, although short lived, seemed to have an interest me before turning and running for the hills, you made me see the light at the tunnel. Aries are fiery and determined and impulsive and headstrong… and to a lot of people totally scary and intimidating! As much I love your positivity and encouragement, which has uplifted and kept me going many days, I adore your vulnerability in also sharing the ugly truth. Negative self-talk, depression, and anxiety almost killed me. Actually I am looking forward. My self esteem and self worth has greatly improved but maybe there is still healing to be done? I have also started to feel very disheartened…. However, I am resentful about the past.
Continue to walk in submission to God and to seek first His kingdom. All of my great big ugly fears about being single. . You are not alone This happened 5yrs ago. Dear Mandy Where do we go from here? But I keep trying — I keep putting my heart on the line. Thank you for sharing the real raw ugly emotions of being single. I felt the way you guys do when I was married lol.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. It so refreshing to have no one to report to, no one to share with to just be selfish with me in a good way. It seems as if everyone around me has someone. I used to think having a boyfriend, and especially a husband, was a way of validating myself. I would like to be married and have a family one day, too! I love the people who are here for me to love, my family and my friends. I think that rawness whether it is raw hurt and pain or raw joy is beautiful and a rare treasure in this world. I tried to make it work for 13 years, but I finally ended it.
Hi Mandy, This was so well written and articulated, which really struck a chord wit me. There will always be deal-breakers and you should never settle or compromise on your deal-breakers. But the bottom line is we are human. I been single since the break up. You were lucky to have a father who gave you such wise guidance. According to attachment theory, different configurations of relationship types coming together have different impacts on the nature of the relationship itself.