Eventually, after the 5 year mark, being annoyed, I finally picked up the phone, and pretended to not even know who it was. I believe he acted on his feelings — on instinct. But we can certainly make ourselves braver. I come here to get insight, perspective, strength, a place to vent and as a support group. Speak up and tell your man how his behavior is making you feel. And I didn't initiate contact that day, I let her do it which was not the normal. The takeaway is, they are emotional and they don't know what they want.
Don't focus on what she said, instead focus on her behaviors. I recognised a distinct pattern. The trap is believing that there is something you have to make right and that you did something wrong that made him turn cold. Also, when it comes to sex, it's not always about objective attraction. I think it takes time to assess and sort through everything that happened in that relationship and you written many conclusions of what you will no longer put up with in a relationship and you are willing to learn. Thanks for all your responses. I am still shaking inside despite the meds I took.
It is most likely that these guys are unsure if they want to be in the relationship. I know you are curious what is her feeling for you, or want to know what is she thinking about. They had nothing in common but I think he chose her because she made him feel better about himself because he thought he was better than her and she put up with his poor treatment because she thought she was really lucky to get him. He projects this confident personality but his ex-wife was far below him in attractiveness, intelligence, and every other way. Against my better judgment it continued on with more hot and cold. Natalie is the role model for recovery.
She is confused what's the feeling that she has for you. Not sure how this fits into relationships, other than don´t try to be a people fashion? You have made progress Fearless for one you are no longer in contact with your ex eum and have not been for a long time. I reconnected with an old, dear friend a couple years ago, out of the blue. You have to know that, women are instinctively emotional animal, they behave more on their emotional side, less on logical side. I am not kidding when I say I get more out of your posts than any therapy or book I have read.
I was equally responsible for keeping him where he did not want to be. I am a rather independent woman, with a ton of friends, and I still did many of the things you did, just trying to be loved, get love, make someone love me, stay in things that were terribly bad for me, making up so many excuses for these men. If you stand in the road you will get run over, if you get up and stand in the road again…. See also: That's why they buy so many clothes, bags and shoes. Women would buy their favorite thing just depend on its appearance, but less on think about the usefulness of the thing. When these hot and cold men go absent, our imagination tends to go into overtime thinking and analyzing. It sounds a bit like you may still have him on a pedestal.
As their relationship started to grow, he invited her to go out of town with him for a weekend. He lays it on thick as well as definitely ravishes you with interest as well as heat— just to change points up relatively with no kind of justification as well as freeze you out. For example: According to a study conducted in Norway, it seems that men who do most of the housework for their woman, are 50% more likely to get themselves divorced. Unfortunately I know that I cannot properly separate out the emotional from the physical which means 1. It baffles me, like I know people can be horrible but they arent normally so staright forward about it, they hide it better. Selfhelpgal, thanks for the nice comment! Sorry to barge into your convo with Grace, but can I ask a question? Put your mind to giving a solid presentation and not caring about what other people think of where you sit. He bumped it and all he said was oops sorry! Of course I was patiently waiting for him to change, hoping that the distance was the only reason for his coolness.
He didn't, so I mssged him saying, wake up! I was asking her similar questions! How do you treat someone you really care about and are thinking of building something lasting and meaningful with? I have reached out to those men in my past that i hurt, and made amends because i know the damage and scars it can cause. And being with people who do it is too. As time has gone by I have become more distant, but still leaving the door open for hope. This has been one of the most painful things I have done because I normally wait and wait for others to determine whether I stay in a relationship or not, only by the fact that they want me. I selflessly gave him my car for the past 3 months coz his was at the garage.
The best thing you can do is to cut this guy out of your life completely. I dont mind this, but what i do mind is having to be the one to take the car to the garage after he is uses it. But then later, she treats you so bad and even teases you, you wish to know what's happening right now. I've experienced the 'silent treatment' both in a romantic relationship and with family. He was always agitated whenever I had to leave. A guy I am talking to now, did the same thing. The guy then, hoovered for about 5 years, literally.