Bipolar disorder, depression, bulemia, corns on her feet etc. What you went through sucks, no question. She was bored at home and started roaming shopping malls and having her coffees with her girlfriends. They automatically assume the marriage was built on sham-love. We have a 3 year old daughter together and for months she was calling him everyday for hours while she was school work and while I was working. That right there may say something about.
It sucks, but I've known people who said I never ever thought I'd have an affair yet they had one. I suspected this but she lied and told me nothing sexually happened so I married her. She says almost losing me opened her eyes and she doesn't want to cheat but I think if a women wants to the want to cheat doesn't go away that easy, btw we have a great sex life and she swears up and down it wasn't about wanting just sex she said she was looking for someone nice and new, the feeling from a new person. She does not communicate and has no reason for anything she did. He left me no choice but to move out. In the end, remember that life is short, and if you can salvage the love you had for your wife at some point and get back to the good days, then you should feel encouraged to do so. One problem kind of starting to be sorted.
Then we can sort out her mental issues and then see if we can fix the broken marriage. Is she still with the guy that she cheated on you with? In other words, you can be reasonable, empathetic, and you both agree that marriage is your end goal, not divorce. I know your post was 2 years ago but I'm going through the exact same thing except it was with her sisters boyfriend's coworker. And on that note, A 3 month affair can not be a mistake. Look--her life is in her own hands now and she's made her decision. I know the pain an affair can cause.
Unfortunately, my marriage can not be saved and is a loss. I can only recommend the best advice that i have heard which is take your own power back and learn to live without your wife. There is a lack of information here to give you any good advice. And to my disgrace she's been having an affair for the last 3 yrs, mostly emotional but physical every time she went over there. My survival and peace of mind comes down to keeping my mind occupied and not thinking about it and trying to get on with life while knowing the love part of our marriage is dead forever.
My relationship has been a lie for so long and the 8 years since the affair have me edgy and wondering what is next. Your obligation is to your two children you had with her prior to her leaving you. In fact, I'd have a whole lot of disrespect for their behaviour. She says that he is better looking than me and earns more money than me. Her affair ended in a manner that he cheated on her with one of her girlfriends.
You have someone else in your life right now who needs to do those things with you. Give her your phone number, make sure that she can call you if she needs anything from you, any type of emotional support. Things will affect us more than others. I don't see how you can trust your wife even if she comes back to you. I try and not be angry as she has been a great wife since that incident.
She is 46 and she left her job in June. There have been so many incidents over the last few years I do not know where to begin. After all, I'm the one being immature. I sacrificed so much to make sure she was happy and she still did this. It started about 4 months after being diagnosed as being in perimenapause.
Marriage is quickly losing its sanctity. Cause separating will just make things worst for u and the kids. But she knows only how to love herself. My wife and I are better than ever. The next morning she said that one of my so called mates over the past two months had been flirting with her and telling her how beautiful she was. The affair never leaves me and i wonder why I stayed with her often because she is ornery and gets her way on everything. My husband cheated on me as well after we left the church.
If your wife is remorseful and feels so awful, give her a chance. She admitted she was drinking for that 10 years and it was hard keeping it a secret. Instead of just working on keeping me. When I found out a similar thing I nuked my cheating wife's entire world. I guess we have to take one step at a time and if it is going to have a chance of being fixed it wont happen over night. After all, how would you feel if you found she cheated? Sit down and talk, work your marriage problems out together. She has beeen seeing a phycologist as well as myself.