Leave all defensiveness, bitterness, and finger pointing at the door and really talk about what is working and what you each would like to improve on in your relationship. But still she has no feelings for you and has no interest in being with you. I lost my job right before our engagement and was barely struggling to pull my weight at home at this point. To everyone else experiencing challenges i wish you all the best and trying to make things work. If you can pitch in or take the responsibility away from your wife a couple days of a week, she will appreciate both the time you save her and your interest in the kids. I know I really hurt her and it was my fuck ups that let us to that point so am living with all the guilt in the world.
Phillia - The love a friend has for another friend. She cheated and told me and we are trying to work on it. Your marriage is in this position fora reason. So if I have not fallen in love with my huband in the last 7 years we habe been together, what are the chances I would now? Some men are lucky to grow up with great male role models around them who have the skill, ability and willingness to teach them how to be a great man. However, I am saying that quite a few are, and that the others who say it are vulnerable to infidelity or divorce.
Right now I am pretty numbed by the revelation not long ago that he cheated on me at least 9 times in our 30 year marriage, mainly on business trips. I'd be as patient as I know how to be, be very loving and kind without being demanding. I had it with his lying and cheating. She never replied to my proposals except that she said she would think about them. Everytime he goes off island to seminars he sleeps with his old school girlfriend I think it was 7 years he has been doing that then while work he's been hitting on young women whom I work with and yet found the woman whom he is still with this very moment. I'm a thirtysomething straight woman married for 16 years.
At the end I was so exhausted to pleased him. Trust is essential to a marriage. So many other things take priority over our marriages that overtime we may start to feel more like roommates than lovers. She said she felt like this for months but kept it bottled up and only exploded when I pushed her about not showing any affection towards me. Its a shame that she doesnt want to go to counselling because even just agreeing to go is a milestone forward as it shows she fundamentally knows the issue, what's at stake and wants to get help. But instead of jumping in, we tend to overanalyze things.
Also now she has confessed to me that she has lied to me about her past, that she has had a very wild past and that she had many more sexual partners than she first told me about. We have 4 children 20,18,14,7. We have 2 beautiful daughters. First thot I should not reply on this but I came across this and it's better I share what I went through. With this in mind, it might be a good thing to keep your eyes and ears open to any hint of trouble in paradise. They are cowardly, selfish liars who do not end their marriage but blame their spouse, chest, lie and then eventually discard.
Is giving her space making less contact. How can we move on from this situation? I questioned her as to why he comes to our house in my absence. Especially since i no longer want to save my marriage…I just want to save my husband from spiraling out of control. He spends 9+hours a day with her. Her periods have been out of wack and we have been having a lot of sex. Sometimes this injury occurs gradually over time.
I am not in love with him anymore. He will take your self worth, your strength, and Lie to you about how a looser you are, to the point, you take your life to stop the pain! Once married, however, there are many factors that slowly pull that focus towards other responsibilities like work, maintaining a house, and taking care of children. . I have changed my attitude to many things in my life including myself and my job. Believe it or not, you have the power to choose to be in love. Get a sitter or schedule it when the kids go to sleep. September 20, 2018 at 5:24 pm I keep reading all these entries about spouses not in love anymore….
I just want to be happy for the first time in my life. It had been going on for about 6-7 months. We never planned this to happen. The last time we had intercourse I wound up in the emergency room. Still, sometimes she just wants to tell you about her day, and in that case, there are other ways to indicate that you are listening. Turns out his wife just had a baby 6 months ago! Yet I may be able to get a job in her city, but she said she prefers the city I am currently living in. November 6, 2014 at 1:51 am I have been in a 17year relationship where after a move my partner claims to have fallen in love with a neighbors daughter about 10 years younger than us.
My husband is not the therapy type but we did listen to the boom together Audible. After my lover's wife found out about me, she suddenly became very responsive to my lover's sexual and emotional needs. Especially in new marriages and midlife crisis marriages, the boredom can feel overwhelming. May 15, 2016 at 5:51 pm This is so so so so bad. It is more a parenting question than a marriage question.
But right now, going after traditional marriage counseling is likely not going to work, and frankly your wife probably wouldn't respond well to it anyways. I feel like i should not have married him. This article is definitely directed at married couples. In these years I dont get affection. But I know in my heart of hearts she wouldn't cheat I know guys have approached her before and she's been open with me.